I recently talked to a man and we had a good discussion about the state the world is in and what can be done about it.

During this conversation he said, “We have been warned that the disintegration of the family will have horrible consequences on society.”

Having grown up in Utah and knowing this man’s religious beliefs I know where he heard this statement. 

I believe that people who are worried about this have good intentions for the most part. 

I do not trust the dogma and religious basis for this statement on the family.

Are they trying to accomplish what is best for society or meeting the requirements of their dogma on the family? 

Do they want society to be stable? Children to be brought up with integrity and moral values?

Do they want to safeguard the wellbeing of children and society as a whole?

I recently read an excellent definition of what trust is from the author, and philosopher, Sam Harris. 

He said that someone you trust, is someone you know will safeguard wellbeing. 

For example a trusted teacher, is a teacher who will safeguard the wellbeing of the children in their classrooms. 

A trusted politician would be someone who safeguards the wellbeing of those they represent. 

Many who speak of the disintegration of society and the family also have very narrow views of what a family is. 

They also have very specific views of what a society should look like. 

If a gay couple wants to adopt and lovingly care for a child, who is most likely to stop them from doing so? 

Why would homosexual couples be denied access adoption? Most likely because they don’t meet the dogmatic views of society and family. 

What if it is absolutely clear this couple can be trusted with a child in every way except what the local dogma says about same sex relationships? 

If a young girl says she doesn’t want to have kids when she grows up, who is most likely to tell her that it is her duty to have kids? 

What if she has kids against her conscience while fulfilling a forced role? Is she likely to be trusted with safeguarding the wellbeing of a child? 

We also need to think clearly about where a person learns to care for a baby or child? 

They are likely to learn within their own family. What if trust is abused in this same family? Can this cause problems for future generations? 

Can a family be abusively forced to look like it has everything together while secretly being rotten to the core? Perhaps these whited sepulcher families have become fully disintegrated within the opaque walls of their homes?

What if the familial and societal dogma of the people who are worried about this issue is damaging to the psyche  of children? 

Perhaps to some, trust and wellbeing are not important. 

Perhaps to some having families is about controlling the lives, beliefs, opinions, personalities, responsibilities, and bodies of those who are part of their family? 

Please think about this.